In order to love anyone else, you have to learn to love yourself first. There are many forms of advice about how you can learn to love yourself, some that is good and other things that you have to take with a grain of salt.



One of the most important things about learning to love yourself is that you have to take time for your own needs. You have to really soul search, and be realistic about who you are. You also need to know that if you are feeling helpless, or worthless, this is counter productive. No matte what the circumstances are, or what you have done, it isn't anything that can't be forgiven in one way or another. If you have been hurt in the past, abused perhaps, that is preventing you from loving yourself, then you need to find some help, and learn to let this go. It wasn't your fault, and you have nothing to be or feel ashamed of.



You also need to have a positive self image of yourself as well. This means that you should find the things that you are really good at, and improve on them. It also means that you need to change your mindset about how you feel about yourself, and one way you can do this is look yourself in the mirror every morning and tell the image you see there that you love them, and they are a good person. This may seem a little awkward at first, but it is important to improve your self esteem. The image we have of yourselves is often quite different than the one that others see, and ours is usually more negative. Only you can change this, and telling yourself in front of the mirror is a good start




Play up your successes and when you do a good job at something, pat yourself on the back for it. Focus on all the positive things you do in your every day life, whether it is holding down a job, and going to school at the same time, or helping someone less fortunate than you are. Do the best you can at every task you do, and make sure you acknowledge this. Don't let doubts and negative feelings get in the way of your goals, and always tell yourself if you do make a mistake that it is just a learning experience, and not a set back.



By learning to love yourself, it will make a big impact not only on your life, but the lives of everyone around you as well. You will have more confidence, and self esteem, and this will rub off on others, and they will definitely start to perceive you in a different light. People will want to be around you more, look up to you more, and you will find that special person that makes your life complete. By loving yourself, you can love other people for who they are.



There are many other tips on how to learn to love yourself. You can find many of these online, on an abundance of different self help websites.